Online: Break free from people-pleasing habits

Start making yourself a priority

If you're highly dependent on other people's approval, we could say you're addicted to love. Hence the term love junkie. We don't mean love in the romantic sense of the word but in relation to matters such as attention, respect, being liked, and liking someone. This comes at a price for a love junkie. You don't really dare to say what you think and find it difficult to set boundaries. You put others before yourself, give them everything and yourself nothing. Last of all: you often receive little thanks in return. Do you want to change and no longer feel insecure? Boost your self-esteem!

Theme: Personal effectiveness
Boost your confidence and self-esteem
Reading time: 2 hours, exclusive of practice and assignments
Study time: 12 hours (estimated)
Total duration: 2-6 weeks

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What and how

Do you need to be liked by others? Do you sometimes lose yourself in both private and work situations as a result? If so, this learning journey is just what you need. You want to embark on this learning journey because you, just like everyone else, sometimes have to cope with stressful situations and want to learn to cope with your insecurities. Situations when your feelings get the upper hand. Situations when you do not behave as you'd like, in which you become angry, irritated, or just miserable. If you can't let go of the emotion, worry, or constantly blame yourself, you can really struggle. It demands a great deal of (negative) energy too. If this is the case, it's time to do something about it. And you can. You can get a grip on your emotions. Everyone experiences emotions, whether or not we're used to showing them. Do you want to feel less insecure and appear more self-confident? RET (Rational Effectiveness Training) is a very effective method for helping you do so.

What will I learn?
A love junkie cannot live without other people's appreciation and constantly seeks confirmation. In this course, you'll learn how this works and how to cope with it more effectively. So that it's less of a problem for you and your uncertainty decreases. You'll learn to view situations systematically by gaining insight into your thoughts and their impact. The main goal of the RET method is to change yourself by changing your thoughts. External influences can cause stress, but you are the most decisive factor with regard to your stress. Everyone suffers from stress sometimes, whatever place in the world they call home. The basic principle is: it's not the situations themselves, but the way you think about them that determines how you feel and how you behave. You'll find out exactly how it works in this learning journey.

What will I do?
Real change, naturally, requires practice. In a way that suits you and with which you feel comfortable. With trial and error. The more you challenge yourself and practice, the better the result. In this learning journey you'll learn to guard against the pitfalls. You're going to begin practicing the RET method so that you'll be able to cope better with stressful situations. You'll be introduced to the basic principles, and you'll learn all about the basic emotions and how they come into play in RET. We will also discuss the related basic terms that play a major role in practice.

In this learning journey, you'll discover:

how to regain control of your emotions and thoughts
how RET can help you
how to recognize limiting thought patterns

A sneak preview

Check out the sneak preview below. Explore a few chapters and you'll see that our journeys are engaging and activating: online learning can definitely be fun and exciting!

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You now have an impression of the learning journey. Would you like to continue learning? Do you want to give yourself a boost? Then let's get started.

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Meet the master

Our online courses are written by our "masters." Each one of them is an expert in their field, and they all have many years of experience. Among them you'll find trainers, psychologists, coaches, authors, etc.

Marcel van Bronswijk is the master behind this learning journey. After training as a RET Supervisor at the Albert Ellis Institute in New York he is a proven expert in the field of Rational Effectiveness Training.

Marcel van Bronswijk

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